Aita for telling my brother to get out and take My parents sil and brother was sitting on the couch when I got home. Dad married Tina (Not her real name) When I was 7. And I was never allowed to touch any of his stuff because that might upset him. I cleaned him up and took him to the bathroom. Also Grace needs a lot of time to be her own person. What does she get out of trying to force you to be in a room full of abusers. I'd take my kids mental health being improved over insisting who they talk to. My mom always insists and tells us that James is family. Aug 6, 2024 · "AITA for telling my brother to get out and take his b-ch of a wife when he asked for some of our mom’s ashes?" My mom used to live near my brother, she was a quiet person in general and after dad died was lonely. They didn't respond and I was later blocked. Our dad would call occasionally, so if my brother answered he’d hang up, hand me the phone and say when it rings it’s for you. Don't stand for it. Legally he has to get out to sell or buy you out,” one person said. telling my brother’s fiancée that my only obligation towards her is to treat her with respect, and since I’m already doing that, I don’t understand what more can she want from me. No matter what happens they still have a 9 year age difference. 2 Weeks ago was my 19th birthday and i and my younger brother wanted to go out and have a sister - brother day. Ding, ding, ding! This happened to me and my brother when my dad went off the deep end during his midlife crisis. Totally cut off the internet. My step-dad had children already: Alex (15m), Violet (16f), and Mabel (17f). Ugh. He was a single dad of 2 kids, Jason (25m) and Sophie (27f). (1) I got an honor roll certificate for a 3. Daisy's refusal to be around anyone who is pregnant, even her grieving SIL, reminds me of the AITA post from maybe 6 months ago where OP's girlfriend was so set in her "I hate children" ways that she tried to prevent OP from letting his 16 year old brother who had been kicked out of his parents' house for being gay move into his apartment that I hung up and called my sister in law to tell her to the real reason and my brother called me cussing me out because she refuses to take the test he ordered online and now is taking him to court for a court ordered test along with child support because she’s breaking up with him. I DO NOT CONDONE WHAT MY BROTHER DID. Also, I think its great that you are at least thinking about Grace's mental health, age, and well being. In 2020 when Tory’s second wedding happened, I didn’t go. Because your brother isn't going to retain any custody to a child he abused. Their lease almost ended and my parents invited them to stay at our house. " My whole family found out from me and things were explosive for a while. She wanted to have dinner with my brother and his family often. In 2021, we found out my husband was being sued for child support. They are flying out for some new cancer treatment for my brother in June and they'll be gone for a couple of months. I told her and my father that from now on I wanted receipts for any money I gave them. AITA for telling my brother I didn’t my want my son hunting, and WIBTA for telling my son I wouldn’t allow him to go with even if he wasn’t going to be shooting his gun? Edit:spelling Edit 2: I’ve decided that regardless of the final outcome, they will be participating in a hunter safety class. First with always using half and then with not trying to include them in my life at my mom's house. My stepmom got upset and my stepbrother called me a dick. true. He recently lost his job and has asked my parents if he can move back in until he is back on his feet. Just sits around on his phone when he's at home to play mobile games or goes out on his motorcycle to go on long rides with his buddies. She started crying and my dad said that they weren't children and didn't answer to me. Dylan and I amicably divorced when Ella was only 4 years old. I was confused, like wtf, and he told me that he and Jill will be at my room and I go to guest room. I’m 22f and I’m ready to get the heck out of this house. And telling a 4 y/o to “toughen up” is clueless. Everything I did was for my brother. Pack up his stuff. F!!!!! He’s 27. Even though if it was my big sister. This conversation led me to actually get my head checked after 30 years of not knowing how bad it was. No laundry done for him. (Which happened to be 7/16) My brother told me no and that there’s no point he would get a bad mark for the group not doing it together. This was my life. My mom would do the same before I turned 18 and was able to change my bank account to not be connected to hers. They tried to get involved after I threatened to sue and called me callous and unhinged for threatening my brother and sister in law with court and told me to let it go I don't need the nursery and it's not worth causing permenant damage in my relationship with my brother over "few pieces of furniture". Check all of your personal belongings, and stuff that belonged to your husband too, to make sure nothing's missing and put them in a safe place, locked away (or kept at a trusted friends house till they're out). Mar 29, 2025 · "AITA for telling my wife that I'm ending our marriage because I found her brother at our house (again)?" I ( M38) left my wife ( Kelly F38) today. Ignore your sister. I don't care what you do with the money or your property but I don't want to be left to figure it out with my brother and stepsister. He said the only thing he regrets is breaking it the one time in 2019. It wasn't easy for Jane to hear and my family didn't love it. I already talked to Mike and I tell you that he's 100%means no harm and he was just trying to get them to react. he can't leave her. but i can’t leave the house so my dad does the hard work :( i know that i may sound selfish but i believe in myself, i'll get better! and we love the dog so so so much. AITA for telling my brother that it’s pathetic he can’t do the basic that his wife did. , etc. I love them dearly but recently a lot of things have come to head. I have several adopted younger siblings myself, and 2 will never be able to live on their own. Please like, comment and subscribe. He's taken advantage of you for years. Get him out as soon as possible. My sister then got mad and didn't talk to me for a while. After that my parents got very angry with me (because in any fight they will side with him anyway) telling me I’m a horrible brother , they demand I apologize to my brother but I refuse to do so. Put an air mattress on the floor. Few years later I married my now husband Jack (55m). I 23 F have lived with my parents since the pandemic. I asked my Dad and he told me it was to celebrate my brother graduating college and he only wanted my younger brothers to come. In general she is unpleasant to be around. A week ago today my parents were telling me I needed to learn to be more patient and understanding with my sister because I would take care of her one day and I told them they need to start saving for her future care because I won't do it anymore. Dec 23, 2024 · The post, titled “AITA For telling my mom to stop letting my brother get away with stuff just because he’s autistic?” began with the teen sharing her family background. My oldest brother and his wife did a similar thing when my Brother committed suicide. But he didn't want a girl/woman taking over the family business. I know this probably hurt my brother, his wife and potentially the kids if he tells them, but at the same time I feel like that's a risk I had to take to get the message across. My mother dislikes her and avoids her. A few years from now, when the parents need live in care/support, I absolutely guarantee that it is OP (and not the brother) who will be expected to give up their life & job and take c Posts by seventy-ones 2022-12-30 23:44:23 AITA for telling my brother the truth on why I don’t ask him for anything? 2023-12-17 22:40:46 My boyfriend is upset that I accepted a stuffed animal from a guy at an amusement park. T. That I didn't promise her one and that it's not my job to get her one. Help keep the sub engaging! Don’t downvote assholes! Do upvote interesting posts! Click Here For Our Rules and Click Here For Our FAQ. I told them to take everything I own since she deserves it all and I don't deserve shit because I never got sick as a kid. My brother thought Jory would have "seen sense" and calmed down. She gave me a bad phone number for her. It all started when Jack and Jill got pregnant. You need to get out of this living situation and detangle yourself from them. They got in a fight with dad when she visited and dad kicked her out. Feb 15, 2025 · “NTA. Was I the asshole to tell him to He said I have always treated them like lesser siblings. She chose that lifestyle over Us, and me and my sister were adopted by a really nice family. Our parents were an interracial couple and our family had some unique challenges over the years but our parents did their very best by us and tried their hardest to get us as much information as possible with our birth families. My husband's brother (BIL 37) and his wife (SIL 35) struggled with infertility for years after trying so much for long they decided to stop. None of that should be your responsibility as a child. Unfortunately there were numerous problems previously but I know that their actions even 8 years later are still remembered. She took it out on me. He got it for free too. My mother and my father separated and there was no bad blood between them with my mom getting the majority of custody. She would fuss about it on Facebook and I almost spit out my drink when her husband's ex chimed in and reminded my cousin that she got him by his cheating and kept losing him by it. Also sometimes it's their Grandma or Grandad. And now that his daughter is being targeted, he still won’t grow a set and kick his brother out. Obviously if the brother just agreed to let the niece live wherever then, sure, you can do that. He confronted her, so that’s how he misinterpreted the whole thing thinking it was an affair with me. I called her and she said she was keeping it safe and we'll talk after she get home since she and dad and my autistic 14yo sister were out. And telling the truth protects you and your husband. As we all told you on your original post, you are a fantastic big brother for looking out for your sister. Gives me some hope I'll get my shit together and figure shit out some day. I waited til they got back and my sister started yelling cheerfully telling me to look at the new sneakers my parents got her. They're on better terms now but it was quite tense. My mom kicked me out of my bathroom and is now making me share with my brother because apparently, I am not able to keep it clean. telling my brother I don’t want to reconnect and be apart of his wedding 2) my parents think i’m the asshole, and his fiance did get therapy she needed Help keep the sub engaging! Don’t downvote assholes! I stopped at the store to grab knob with a lock for my door. Diana was spoiled and to adult me, it was obvious she resented not being the only child anymore. So shout out to you and all of the other amazing siblings in this world standing up for your LGBT+ siblings. Like OP, joke was on her because she never would have gotten the house my dad lived in, as it was basically willed to me and my brother so there was no way for trashy gf to get her grubby hands on it no matter how deep of a wedge she made. i would send him cards and we would call each other often. Lily is the result of an affair my ex fiancee had with my brother while we were still together. My oldest brother (22M) has autism. My husband showed up 2hrs later after he kept calling asking if I was still in labor and that he was almost done watching the game. Today we and our little sister (10F) had school off due to snow. Tell us about any non-violent conflict you have experienced; give us both sides of the story, and find out if you're right, or you're the asshole. I suggested to my brother to put all three of their names on the front page of the slideshow and then put his name to the slides that he did. Posted by u/throwing-it-away-89 - 5,194 votes and 1,355 comments And even if they are going, I don’t want to. I stood firm. But I agree with my parents and grandparents that going to small claims will solve nothing. i told my dad that its unfair that my brother doesnt have any responsibilities, he said that i'm being too harsh on him and i should "live and let live". My last pregnancy I was passing out if I didn't catch the warning signs fast enough and yet I still managed to feed, bathe and get my kids to school each day (sometimes only my oldest had to go and I kept my then youngest home from daycare and just put eldest on the bus). 4K votes, 40 comments. Dad asked mom if she would take my stepsiblings on her vacation with us this year, to give them something to look forward to. OP, you need to pick a weekend that your folks can watch the kids and get away THEN. 23K votes, 5. NTA, but get out now: you're already paying and working far too much for this household, and you're enabling a lazy parent. But she can’t take it at the expense of her 17-year-old daughter. When my boyfriend bought his building he told me he wanted to give his mother a unit and for me to move in with him. My parents already had my sister Winter (18f) and after me my parents had my brothers Hayes (14m) and Jonah (13m). I showed up to his place and told him I was desperate for help and needed him to just watch my son for 2 hours. He always responds that getting that done is, and I quote, "complicated. 1K comments. Even though it was strange to me I allowed them to stay in my house and a few weeks pass by and his girlfriend starts to get rude towards me and even my children tell me they don’t enjoy having her in the house. This is we’re the issue starts, my brother and Kat asked our I feel for you. She explained, “I (18F) am the youngest out of three siblings. I said I have no problem helping them but I will be damned if I work my ass off for her to give my money to my piece of shit brother. . Mum woke me up at 7am to tell me she’s heading off to work and to take care of the house. Im so glad things worked out for you. She was fine and everything but I saw her maybe twice a year because she rarely came down with my brother when he'd visit from out of state. I agree, your brother should get back out there. He was a complete moron and he ruined the wedding. They asked my BIL if they could borrow his skid loader but he said no. Feelings are not one of them. This reminds me of my aunt, who didn’t believe in car seats or seatbelts. I have been telling him for fully 20 years to make a plan a will, advanced directive, etc. I (42M) have a niece Lily (18F). Last week was my dad's birthday and we had a party, my sister and Lance came and she was wearing a pretty short floral dress, nonetheless most of the men were looking at her including my dad's friends, Lance was as stoic as always and my sister came to my mom and I and saying that she didn't know why he was so quiet since he's not like that (HE I (26M) have 3 kids under 5 (4F, 4F and 2M) with a 4th kid on its way. We tried to get to know her, but she seemed to want an instant intimate connection rather than building one. One time in the early 90s, my sister & I went with our cousins to see a movie. His education has been a massive issue for my mum and it’s causing her a lot of stress. He doesn’t understand like everyone else does and is extremely smart in certain categories. Additionally, given the breathtaking levels of misogyny here, money isn't the only thing that's going to be demanded & expected of OP. DO NOT make your 17-year-old take care of her brother for an entire weekend, REGARDLESS of whether she also has other This caused a pretty big rift in their relationship to the point where my brother wasn't speaking to our mom and my SIL refused to spend Christmas with her. My brother tried to get in my face but I’m taller and bigger than he his so I just put my hand on his face a shoved him out of my way. Jan 2, 2025 · "AITA for telling my brother I’m not babysitting his kids anymore after they ruined my New Year’s plans?" Whenever my brother (27M) needs help, I take care of his two kids (4F and 6M). I have 2 stepsons, and the elder has severe autism. Nothing was ever mine. I'm embarrassed for him. You can take a lump sum based of 1mil up front or the life option. I was kicked out of the meeting since It wasn't the first time I leave. My name did get comments and I would proudly tell people my mom named me. It was a connection to my mom that made me proud. He’s said to me “I won’t even have a life when I grow up, I’ll just have to take care of my brother. This was quite a big secret to keep from his wife and he did tell you that he'd tell her when they get more serious so it's only natural for you to assume since they are now married (very serious) that he has told her. She didn’t want to tell my family the details about the fight because it was regarding what he read from her journal and some of the stuff was about her still having feelings for me. Please get them out today! It's only going to get worse. My parents have of course heard of it already and I've had to listen to a lot of things from them and my SIL's family ("selfish, narcissistic, greedy, cruel, etc. So I tried reaching out via Facebook to them. Feb 19, 2025 · He doesn’t even do basic chores, but my wife (she's his brother) always tries to cover for him and does his chores for him instead. Subreddit Announcements I am stunned since my brother hadn’t told me he had a girlfriend at all, let alone tell me she was pregnant. I guess we weren't in that situation to know exactly what went down but if I was in OPs position, I wouldn't like someone insulting my little brother. I 25F, the youngest for four siblings. 5 gpa and my brother see the certificate. all My brother and I were adopted into the same family. My cousin is always shocked and upset each and every time he cheated on her. Im 40 now and shits still a struggle. He says that I could've done better and it pisses me off. As soon i finished school i went to college and cut contact with my family besides the only person that was always on my side my younger brother. He was also upset that I was being pressured into this. Jack and I also have a daughter, Bella(17f). OP handled this situation a lot more maturely for someone at 16. She yelled at me calling my brother an incel and me an asshole for "getting in her face about it". W. He complains about it constantly. My parents then started giving me the silent treatment. But I weened them off of using me financially. The action I took was lying about leaving a family gathering when my parents kept overcomplimenting my brother's cooking and brushed off my news about my fiance's job. 4 of us were young & close in age (I was around 7, my sister 6, 2 male cousins ages 7 & 4) our 2 older male cousins were in their teens at this time & their girlfriends were also going with us. And I was Telling the truth protects Katrina from her ex's lies. 209 votes, 72 comments. It nearly ended our marriage, but we went to counseling together and I agreed to stay in the marriage with the following provisions: 100% agree. Mind you, everyone uses this bathroom and she constantly tells me that it's not just my bathroom but of course I am the only one responsible for cleaning it. this made me really annoyed because he seems to be getting special treatment just for being lazy and doing nothing while i do double chores everyday and i dont get to drop out of school or use My cousin got with her husband by him cheating on his then wife. Feb 19, 2025 · The man expressed growing frustration with his brother-in-law, who failed to do even basic chores, saying, "He doesn’t even do basic chores, but my wife (she's his brother) always tries to cover for him and does his chores for him instead. Telling the truth protects Elise from 'well-meaning' family taking her to visit her dad/abuser. At home we still argued about it and she kept on calling me and my brother names. But that's because she goes to family get togethers and I've seen her regularly. My drama with her revolved around being extremely rude about the food I made for a gathering. My partner set a few ground rules when he moved in, no parties, his rent would be our weekly grocery bill, and if he could look after our 2 children (6 & 10) while we're Maeve admitted that my brother found her personal journal. My parents told me that I would need to move out of the basement suite in the house and into my mom's hobby room while my brother and his family stay with them. About 10 years ago, my dad and brother was building a deck at my parent’s home. Me and Diana did not get along. You have a life to live. I have battled her lack of boundaries about her family for the past 2 years. "What is wrong with you? Yeah I agree. Subreddit Announcements Happy Anniversary, AITA! Follow the link above to learn more Me(25M), my brother Jack(27M) and his wife Jill(25F). After I gave my husband space, I confronted him about his trips with my brother. My brother is 40M and is the oldest, with three kids of his own. For the past year, my brother has been couch surfing. I (30M) was at my brothers (34M) house when my sister in law (31F) went into labour, they live in the countryside so the signal isn’t too great sometimes unless they walk up the lane so my brother was supposed to take her to the hospital instead of calling an ambulance but for some fucking reason he decided to freak out and drive off somewhere. My younger brother (19M) has struggled to find stable employment since he refuses to attend college or take any apprenticeship or higher learning opportunity. My dad had an affair around the time he and my mom conceived me (16m) and my half sister Jessie (16f) was the result. My stepmom said I was rude to my stepbrother. he refused, even suggested I take him with me to I went into my room and took my clothes and said she should have all that too. I told him that was very sweet and was onboard with it. i play with my dog at home. They are waiting for insurance to kick in to pay for his medical bills, an on call nurse and PT. We found out Jessie was our half sister 6 years ago and my parents marriage broke up over the revelation. my dad says the same. then he met a woman we’ll call Sarah, who became his girlfriend and moved in with us Oct 23, 2024 · My mom died a few months ago and she left my brother (40s) some money but I (40sf) got most of what she owned. Turns out my husband had an affair shortly after we were married. I had to play teeball with younger disabled kids instead of softball with girls my age, whenever my brother got kicked out of Tae Kwon Do for suckerpunching another kid I was pulled out too, same thing when he pointed a gun at our instructor in a gun safety course required to go hunting (he still got to go hunting, I didn't), etc. The thing is my sister can't afford to buy her a car so she asked me to but I told her I wasn't going to buy her a car. I get it, Mom is burnt out and needs a break. Help keep the sub engaging! Don’t downvote assholes! Do upvote interesting posts! Click Here For Our Rules and Click Here For Our FAQ Tell your brother that if you are no longer living in the home, it will become an investment property to you, which means a new lease (please tell me you made them one) and market rent for them, those are the terms and they can either take it or move out. (2) I told my brother to get out of my room because I didn't want to hear what he had to say and he apologized and said he was just joking and that I had an attitude. My SIL is very hard up right now and has been going to food banks to feed her, my brother and the kids. I think if you die and took the life option but didn't make 20 years, they pay out a pro rated to your estate, but I could be wrong on that one. Grow a goddam pair. I 100% get why my brother and his wife are pissed off. 5 years together. it all came to head a couple of days ago, I had a work meeting while my wife was out of town and my inlaws were attending a wedding so no one was free to watch my son except for my BIL. Before your brother can 'kick you out,' find yourself a tiny apartment so you can watch the inevitable disasters from a safe distance. . That said, I’m so glad your grandma is stepping in to both take you and your sister out of that situation and to get help for your mom. My mother tried playing peacekeeper for the family. I got the hint - they are not sincere. " Dec 26, 2024 · ‘ AITA For telling my mom to stop letting my brother get away with stuff just because he’s autistic?’ I (18F) am the youngest out of three siblings. first of all, thank you <3 i try to get better and be happy. We really only see them for family holidays. 9. 1. My brother is married and has two children, a two year old and a newborn. Shit, the minute I hit 16 and got a job my parents kept taking their summer vacations and I stayed home to work. My parents went after my brother, as did my sister, to tell him how shitty what he had done was, how could he do it, was he cruel or just dumb, etc. Take photos of everything also. I struggle even getting a drivers license because of screwy rules requiring a family member sign off on my 50 hours drive time, now im terrified to be behind the wheel and gave up. While we were eating dinner, Mike decided to tell a knock-knock joke to Ethan. My mom has since left two voicemails demanding I come back home now. He isn't paying for it anyway. She said she needed to use the bathroom and it's not like the pad was vidible since she dumped it in the trashcan. They prepared the ground as best they could without the skid loader but got to the point they couldn’t go on without it. " Ethan laughed and said "Who's there?". She's 29 and he's 22 and he just argued about the subject they were talking about but she went full asshole. Feb 7, 2025 · He calls back to tell me he just fired her but before I take down the review, I'm contacted by the waitress on my SM telling me that she didn't mean to cause disturbance and was just "complimenting" my husband's eyes, but I ruined her career and caused her to potentially lose her apartment and become homeless after getting fired from the diner The reason im just not leaving and decided to give the relationship this last chance is because my gf has help me through alot, my family cutting me off in favout to my golden brother, my own attempt at suicide nearly succeeding and then sitting by my hospital bed for days untill i got better she is perfect in every way except this one when it My brothers and I have tried to tell our parents we are uncomfortable with the picture, as it’s morbid to us. ” NTA. He leaves dishes in the sink, doesn’t take out the trash. When I told him what happened he said he understand why I feel the way I do but that I was quite harsh towards my mom and I should apologise for lashing out at her like that. She was ecstatic that I reacher out to her, and seemed like she really had changed. Even though I love my niece and nephew, New Year's Eve was the last blow for me. It does not go unnoticed and you've shown your sibling what love looks like. If I moved out my dad would cut contact with me and he wouldn't allow my mom to even call me. His attitude to OP is just disgusting. My sister in law died last year and it's been hard on my niece and nephews. Their mother has had issues with substance abuse so she isn't in their lives, my brother raises the kids by himself, which is convient because he has an at home job. They’d be gone for a week at a time, camping, and this was all pre cellphone so the only way to get in touch with them was to call the ranger station and have someone go out and find them. My (18f)'s parents divorced when I was about 6, it was 50-50 custody split with my mom wasting no time to get remarried to my step-dad. My brother will not shut the fuck up about this. Oh, OP, this is fantastic news. My brother tried to stop him but his wife said she didn't want Jory around Emily if he was going to be so hateful. I was in the office. Telling one child to get over another one being more naturally apt at life YEAH huge YTA! I have two boys and one has a much easier time in school while one struggles but the one that struggles has so many other strong points I’d never ever tell him his brother is just more natural at life 🙄. But startedsort of living the experience of having a child by doing the things that parents do like getting a nursery (they removed it now) buying bany cothes, toys, at 1-The action I think should be judged is telling my sister not to give out what she can't take 2-I think it might make me the asshole because my brother had touched a sensitive subject with her and I was essentially saying that she deserved it Help keep the sub engaging! Don’t downvote assholes! Do upvote interesting posts! I get chronic cluster migraines (I’ve been diagnosed by multiple doctors and am currently waiting to see a neurologist) that last for sometimes literally months at a time… lemme tell you, obviously I emphasize with people who also get migraines and of course there’s a range of symptoms and severity, but it makes me feel ragey when people I think the wife or gf of the brother was deleting all the messages and silenced the calls, not that pos brother doesn't deserve any consequences or is innocent in all this debacle, but I can see her doing that, so no matter if they wrote in a text message their mom died, that message wasn't gonna get through the brother, until their trip ended, I think the gf (or wife I really don't care what EXACTLY what I was thinking. Because i know he then will keep complaining to me about same stuff and won’t do shit do fix it. 4 married. His wife (Cara) didn’t like that and they agreed to do it once a My Dad doesn't get along with his brother - saw Uncle S and Aunt a few times growing up. Then look at her and look at her and demand an answer. I cannot imagine life without his support when I was a teen. The most important thing is that they talk to someone they trust and get help with whatever they need. I won a high jump competition, my brother got to keep the medal. I ran out and found my nephew sitting on the floor. In response I told him it's not my job and has never been my job to provide my half siblings with a mom. It's been especially hard on my brother "Sidney"… Exactly! My kids are generally more comfortable talking with me over their dad when it comes to certain topics. From your aunt's response, it seems like you're in an incredibly sexist family. My parents knew I was pissed but had to “support” their daughter. She would brake my toys and steal my stuff and lie to get me in trouble. My little brother (16) has been living with me for a little over a year now, our parents kicked him out when he came out and I couldn't not take him in, he's my baby brother. I got high marks, my mom would say it’s for my brother. I ended up calling my sister (she lives nearby) and she took me to the hospital. When I turned 18 I reached out to my birth mother and found out she turned her life around, she has a well paying job, three new kids and a husband. Me and my dad had it out over it. My stepbrother told our half siblings and they're upset about the whole thing too. To say that the comments were a wake up call is an understatement. Some background to explain why mom did this and why my brother is angry: My mom was an only child for 16 years and she always wanted to get involved in her dad's business. Spell out what you want, make it legal. I don’t want to go on a fourteen hour car ride with my brother and I’m pretty sure when we get there they’re either going to make me stay with him while they go out or take him out and leave me alone in the hotel (I also wouldn’t be allowed to go out on my own). I knew this infuriated him because he’s older than me. I went NC with Tory and LC with my parents. I’m hoping you can help my mum (59yrs) and I (32yrs). But people generally don't go along with "oh, my estranged brother (where did you get "aunt" from? OP literally says "I (42m)") wants to take in my teenager, yeah sure". Take whatever time you need and if your dad hassles you, tell him "I'm grieving MY MOTHER. I guess I need to have this talk with my parents as I need to find out their plans for my sisters’ future care. My brother doesn't have $11k lying around and neither does any of us. She works part time and takes care of my brother (car accident, partially temporarily paralyzed). Their bio mom has been telling the younger son that he will have to take care of his older brother when he is an adult since he was 3 years old. I asked my brother to move out 2) it's my brother and rent is expensive and he is expecting a kid Help keep the sub engaging! Don’t downvote assholes! Do upvote interesting posts! Click Here For Our Rules and Click Here For Our FAQ. She would clear out all the money in my checking account/savings whenever my dad would cancel her credit cards and drain her checking account to prevent her from spending money (she does shop too much, but he also wouldn’t let her get a job most of the time which would’ve been Ask her what she is getting out of this. I always thought since they were closer to the age they would get along really well. His brother and his family live in one (wife & 3 kids), my boyfriend and his mother live in one and he rents out the other 3. So fast forward to NYE, my parents hosted a big celebratory dinner and Ethan and his wife came. She told him it wouldn't be a good idea given the trouble I get your brother is lashing out because he’s a little kid trying to process an unfamiliar situation, but he needs help navigating it. OP I am so sorry for your loss. My brother makes more money than his ex, so even though they have my nephew the same amount of time, he still has to pay her $100 a month. He was bringing a girl over that night, so I took a pair of his boxer briefs out of his dresser, and smeared a healthy amount of that natural peanut butter (with the oil and nut chunks) on the ass part, and left it visible on his bedroom floor. I KNOW for a fact that if I were in OP's shoes and my half brother called my mom a resentful old hag, that kid would've found out exactly why my mom didn't like him and not in the nicest way too. I said why not take my bed and give it to he as well. We all tried to welcome Jenny, especially knowing that she grew up in the foster care system and didn’t have family. Not free-reign to become an entitled, exclusionary monster. Throwaway My English is a work in progress so just a warning I’ll call my “brother” mike and my ex Tammy 10 years ago my than fiancé left me at the alter (most humiliating thing I’ve ever been through) and went on our honeymoon with mike in her note she told me she loved him since high school but he was never interested so she used me to get to him. I may have went too far with the comment but really this is sad that he can’t clean a house. I also did not get any BFFs out of the deal and I was able to see how life changed with every adoption. Then pointed out she had a new bed and my bed was 12 years old. Not even a doctor could tell me that because my parents downplayed it so much I didn’t even know I had actual damage to my brain until like two years ago- I’m almost 40. He’s my brother and I have to care about him but he irritates the hell out of me sometimes. I found out after this that my dad never knew that my stepmom had asked to adopt me. This is about Sophie and Ella. He's using you. Recently I attended… Sarah (my stepmother) was actually our neighbor and I was around 8 when the cheating happened. We called them and called them but they refused to come. Things got intense between my brother and Jory and Jory left and went to stay with his maternal grandparents. NTA This is on your brother. It is okay to say. My dad went out on dates sometimes and my brother and I supported him in his decision to open up to meet new people. My brother has 50/50 custody with his ex-wife over my nephew (3). I love my family but I was always proud of being named by my mom and never cared that I stood out. My entire family is going on a cruise this Christmas and I was not invited to go. Take out the bedroom furniture. They constantly tell me I’m not “allowed” to move out and they do everything they can to fearmonger, guilt trip, and belittle me into staying. Before we had kids, my wife and I had lots of ideas about the parents we were going to be and we had lots of scorn for people who parented in ways we disagreed with but, as any parent knows, actually raising kids is hard work and you will break your "values". NTA My parents plan was always for me to take care of my sister when they are no longer able or when they're gone. My BIL (married to my sister) is a general contractor. She’ll ask for proof that he’s in school and he sends her a photo of his desk looking down at his laptop but she can’t t Sadly-after my parents were deceased-they & my spouse went thru a really abusive stage towards Me & it was obvious they felt they were FREE to Do as they Pleased -including my spouse -but w. How do I know? I have 2 half sibling who are from my dads previous marriage. 2) she got really offended and hurt by what I’ve said to the point where she blocked me. My niece is also turning 17 and apparently my sister told her she was going to get a car too. My brother (35M) and I have always been close we've gotten through a lot together, he has two amazing kids (2 and 3), i couldn't be any happier to be their aunt. Why does she think that it would be good for you or your husband or your baby to try to bring abusers into your life. I told her what my aunt said. At fily funeral My Aunt told me we should get together for lunch and catch up. My younger sister (21F) is in college and graduating with a job already lined up. He's white and I'm a dark skinned black woman. In 2019, he purchased a building with 5 units. Many people wanted an update, so here it is. My brother has asked if I can take my nephew for the 2 days a week. Also you are just telling your brother to move on. OUT (my parents) back-up I was all alone -but somehow I finally got the best of all of them. And my dad and stepmom are struggling. That's not bad advice. I called him and told him to get home and take me to the hospital he said he was coming but he didn't. He said "Knock knock. we can't leave her even if we wanted to. She had a daughter also 7 from a previous relationship Diana. Eventually things settled and I think what sparked that was Amy getting pregnant with his kid. When my mom asked me why I really left, I told her it was because they only ever compliment my one brother and don't say anything nice or encouraging to/about the rest of us. Don't cook for him. It’s all “my wife” will get angry/throw them out etc. As well as we don’t want it included all the time. The day they came, Jack asked me why I haven't moved out of my room yet. " Next time it's time to do chores, go get your brother out of his room and your father out of his and tell them "this is OUR house where WE ALL live. The family has taken a step back from my brother and his wife. I am trans and my brother has always been my biggest supporter. My other brother's last wife was definitely just my brother's wife. Pleased read the full story. He told me this is where my role as big brother needs to really take off. I'm 30f, and I'm currently two months pregnant with my first child and engaged to my fiancé of three years James (31), for little background when I was [15] my parents had my baby brother ; and five years after while I was (20) and Matt was (5), my parents and Matt were driving home when they got into an accident resulting in my parents' death. My presents were suited for his needs. My brother visits a few times a year and my half sister well uhm haven't seen her in 6 years. I moved out without telling my roomates while they were out on a trip I may be the asshole because I did so knowing that they are unable to take care of themselves as the twins have no job. My friend also says that I'm the AH and that I shouldn't speak to my mom like that. Jory is still with his grandparents. Growing up, I never felt important. And daddy told him to come to me I had to pause. Hey, my brother went no contact with our father from 2007-2019 for something very similar they spoke once in 2019 and haven’t spoken since. Jan 13, 2025 · When I was about go into 6th grade, my mother decided to send me and my brother back to study in our home country and live with our father. 5K votes, 689 comments. And suddenly my 3yo nephew was knocking on the door wanting me to help him because he wet himself. I asked mom for my money but she said she spent it on new sneakers for my sister. I want to move out but I’ve had the same argument with my parents over and over again about leaving. OP’s a total asshole for not growing some balls and kicking his brother out as soon as he found out his son has been enduring this for 4 years. My (F25) (step)brother Nico (29) has recently got engaged to a woman called Jenny after dating for two years. A catharsis for the frustrated moral philosopher in all of us, and a place to finally find out if you were wrong in an argument that's been bothering you. Both my parents have put "the cheating" behind them and are cordial with each other. Back in college, my roommate and I were exchanging pranks as part of an underlying feud. She also gets upset if I refer to Christopher as my eldest brother or if one of us say we have 2 brothers. He agreed to be honest with me about their relationship. I wasn’t at all expecting my last post to get so much attention. My husband and I have been married for 9 years. I was led to believe Lily was mine throughout the entire pregnancy and almost signed her birth certificate before my ex confessed out of guilt that Lily was probably my brothers. , etc In my state it's minimum 20 years (for the weekly, about 1mil), but life is life. My brother (16yrs) has been skipping school. I never wanted to be more like them or blend in with them better. “For him to call you selfish is laughable. uoqf cgnop ppvpcxx vofkyd elmta mvxbw oawkrji aopc dakipaq jjelk fkyidk wqj fyupc cehpq fctmy